Our First Anniversary

Wow, I couldn’t believe how fast time flew by us this year. Here it was, one year being married already. As a little girl, I would dream of finding prince charming and living happily ever after. But I never really paid much attention to what it meant to be “happily ever after”.

Looking back at this past year, it has been fast pace for both of us, both at work and at home. I don’t really know how other couples can just merge so easily. Or maybe it is all the misleading stories giving you that impression…

On the physical side, merging two households into one apartment and one storage unit hasn’t been easy. At this point, there haven’t been a lot of changes on Tom’s side yet since we are still living in his apartment while I sold my previous home. There are more bedding and linen, more dishes and cookwares, more books and magazines, and Tom lost half of his closet space now. We actually have some pictures on the walls. And the cleaning lady comes in once a week instead of twice a month.

Tom pretty much lets me have the run of the apartment. I think after the marriage, sometimes I would joke that he “checked” out his brain as soon as he leaves the office. He has no ideas where everything is (claiming I put them at different places now…even though he couldn’t find them even before I was there…) Like when he was packing for his fishing trip, “Honey, where is my Bose headphone, where is this, where is that???? Very funny, I just roll my eyes….

And the closest he gets to the kitchen is to put his empty dish in the sink.

On the emotional side, we still say “I love you” to each other almost daily. Not bad! We hardly argue over anything. Not sure if it is because I have been gone quite often. We speak at least a couple times on the phone daily, just checking in…I think we both love to be married. I definitely think getting married late in life helps. Our own maturity level and previous experiences reduce our disagreements when it comes to little things…it took both of us together 90 years to find each other, why sweat over small things….

This is the status.

Now onto the story of eating your wedding cake on your first anniversary, who thought up that idea??? Crazy, first the cake has been frozen for a year. I can’t believe any cake frozen for over a year can still be moist inside. The cake didn’t look too good after I defrosted and unpacked the box…..so I put some of the trimming from the flowers Tom bought me so at least it can look a bit more appetizing. We both took a bit at the cake and decided the box needed to be heading to the trash…See we agree again…haha.